The day of the party, as guests are arriving, the last two guests were due. I opened my front door to see not the last two, but one little guest there...without her sister. The parents did not bring her. Because in my hasty communication, they surely felt she wasn't really welcome to attend. That was so far from the truth.
As the party got going, there was one feather boa left in the bag. One tea cup not used. As wonderful as the party was, I had that small voice in my head and feeling on my heart of sadness... Because I had had a perfect opportunity to be welcoming and generous and in my tired, stressed out, pre-party (post midterms) state, I had come across initially irritated and unhospitable.
Midway through the afternoon, my twin boys with special needs joined the party for the lunch and the singing of happy birthday and serving of the cake. All my little guests had been told in advance the boys are special. They were all nice. The little sister, the one who came without her sibling, left the birthday table, came to me and said "Miss Katie, would it be okay if I went over to your boys and said hello and included them". She, all 7 years of her, had succeeded where I had failed.
I like to think that I am always welcoming and showing my best self. If I make a mistake or handle something poorly, I want to be a big enough person to be able to acknowledge my errors and make amends for them. I will send that Mom this post. I will take this opportunity to tell this Mom "Though your friendship is new to me, you are dear to me. I am sorry I handled things in a way that made you think even for a moment that both your daughters were not welcome. Please forgive me and please know that you, all of you, are always welcome here."
Please help me to always be welcoming. To always practice hospitality in ever sense. To always be generous in my thoughts and actions. To take every opportunity to make every person feel welcome, feel appreciated and feel wanted. Always. Amen."
Blessings to you all. I read every comment. I treasure your friendships.