Tuesday, January 31, 2012

The Advantages and Disadvantages of Homeschooling a Child with Special Needs: Part One

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Homeschooling, in itself, offers advantages and disadvantages, depending on your family situation, even if you are homeschooling all typical children. For example, will you be giving up an income for one of you to stay home and homeschool? That affects all families making the homeschool decision. These two lists in this two-part post contain items that may be applicable whether you have a special needs child or not. But they are good things to consider if you are making the decision on whether or not to homeschool your special needs child.Today we will look at the advantages of  choosing to homeschool a child with special needs. In a few days, I will post the second half~~the disadvantages to consider when thinking about homeschooling your child with special needs. I  look forward to reading what advantages and disadvantages you can add in the comments!  and p.s. this post is for informational purposes only and does not constitute the giving or receiving of medical advice. Thank you!

Part One: The Advantages of homeschooling your special needs child:

1. No one knows your child, or how they learn better than you. Is your child a visual learner? Or does he learn by doing? Does he stay on task better when allowed to stand as opposed to sit? You have the advantage to be able to present the material to your child in the way you know they will learn it best when you homeschool. Your child can be taught  1:1 via his particular  learning style; something he will most likely not be able to receive as one of many in a public classroom setting. 

2. No one knows your child's diagnosis more than you. This is particularly true if your child has a syndrome or multiple things going on and not just a blanket diagnosis (autism, for example). But even with one well known diagnosis, you have been reading about it, studying it, living, eating and breathing it since diagnosis day. You may not be the foremost expert in the world on autism, but you are the foremost expert on your own child.


3. More time allotted in the day for repetitions that a child with special needs, needs. The bottom line is a homeschool schedule offers more flexibility. If your child is finally starting to grasp a concept, you can keep going! You decide when to move to the next subject, the next task, the next goal...not the clock. 


4. Life skills as a curriculum subject is an option. Granted there are some Basic Life Skills classrooms, but overall, a public school classroom for a special needs class is mandated to teach a particular set of academics of which life skills is not included. However, life skills are extremely important for a child with special needs. In my own son's example: when I took him out of public school, they had been trying to teach him for almost THREE years, how to count coins. Well, fast forward 4 years of homeschool: He still can't count coins, but he can now make his bed, set the table, bring his own dirty clothes to the laundry room, he is potty trained now and can do his own shower. While we work on math each day and he can now add single digits, I'm not really missing that coin counting ability. The school worked on it because it was a state standard for his grade,but even with modifications this was a skill above him, and the question to ask...TO WHAT END? in other words, what was the point?  I have the autonomy to work on what  I feel is a home standard for him (in addition to the required academics) to be the most independent little boy he can be! To read more about life skills as a curriculum  subject, click HERE.

5. Social Skills are genuinely better, not worse. We have all read the research...homeschooled children are shown to have better social skills (not worse) than their public school peers. Same goes for special needs children. If you want your child to have good social skills, they need to be in an environment where good social skills are modeled consistently. This is typically not found in a special needs classroom, where children of different levels and abilities are often placed together. Also, with certain diagnosis like Autism, where sensory issues are involved, a loud, fluorescent lit classroom filled with various people, sounds and smells, is sensory-overload...not the best platform for desired behavior to build.


6. Ability to do outings when venues are less crowded. If your child has DME (Durable medical equipment), has difficulty waiting or being quiet, then being able to go to a movie or a restaurant on a Tuesday morning when everyone else is in school may be your ticket to more enjoyable social time with your child.  When my children's grandparents visited Thanksgiving week, they took the kids, all of them. to the movies. By going on a weekday morning, there was no line and no crowd and since they were the only ones in the theatre,  my one son's habit of wanting to talk through the movie (a skill we are stringently working on) was not a big deal.


7. Ability to travel in off seasons.  No lines. No crowds. and it's cheaper. Consider  Disneyland. Being able to go when there are no crowds could be the difference between a successful vacation for a family with a child with special needs and an unsuccessful one.

8. Ability to do more school outside. I have kids with lots of energy who learn by doing. So science outside? Awesome. With the Waldorf homeschool method, a part of each day is spent outside, but personally, isn't this a great idea for any child...whether homeschooled or not, special needs or not? Sunshine changes everyone's disposition; including Moms. Children desire and require interaction with nature. Experiences are still the best teacher over worksheets and most special needs children have difficulty with worksheets at a desk anyway. Lastly, recess break when my special needs kiddo is getting antsy? No problem...we don't have to wait for a specific "recess time". 


9. Therapies. You will spend less time on a waiting list for therapies when your child is available times other than the prime after school hours. For our particular homeschool decision, our twins who had been on a waiting list for over two years for after school therapists had therapy going again within two weeks of me starting to homeschool them as they were now available in the morning for ST, OT and PT.


10. Routine. You can change the routine as needed. If your child did not sleep the night before, as most children with special  needs (80% as compared to 30% in their typical peers) have sleep issues, you can adjust the days learning schedule.  Likewise, you can keep the schedule as rigid as need be for your child's comfort level.

11. Ability to spend more time on areas of interest for your child. My son Sean loves trains. It is amazing the ways I have used trains over these past few years to teach everything from science, to social studies to math. We have spent extra time on theme units that was initially unplanned because it sparked a desire to learn that I didn't foresee. Homeschool allows for this flexibility.

12. Diet issues. If your child is on a special diet, be it gluten free or even tube feeding, homeschooling in its definition is easier than public schooling.

Do you have other advantages to share? Leave a comment. Part two of this post: The Disadvantages of homeschooling your child with special needs can be found by clicking HERE.

Blessings,




Sunday, January 29, 2012

And the Winner is :-)

Pin It I want to thank you all for making my blogoversary celebration month so fun.  More than anything, I have enjoyed the friendships from fellow moms, homeschoolers and special needs parents that I have been so blessed to have made these past couple of years.


I hope you will all enjoy my new French Blog adventure, Katie's Language Cafe and continue to visit both of my blogs as we embark on a new year together. ( And if you want to read my first post, my very first post...click here :-)


So without further adieu, here is the winner of the ROSETTA STONE giveaway. In all, we had 220 entries for this giveaway between the blog entries and those who earned entries by sharing the giveaway post on facebook! All were listed out on a piece of paper (old school)~~written out by hand by me. I do this so you can know how the winner came to be. There is no doubt that it was random; that it was fair.




#181: Kasey at
TFOMplus2~












Entries were numbered, 1-220. Random.org was then used to generate a number to be matched to the entry number. So without further ado, the winner was: 181!


Congratulations Kasey. I hope you enjoy following Katie's Language Cafe and I hope you enjoy learning with your new Rosetta Stone French Level 1! Please email me at homeschoolfam@gmail.com with your full name and mailing information.


Thank you again everyone, for your comments and your friendships!



Saturday, January 28, 2012

Ten rules for a happy and successful wife...

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                                                                         photo credit: here

In my life this week…

This week I learned that two different couples we know are in distress. Real distress. Divorce-talking distress. It always makes me wonder...what happened to their love-story.

Then today, I accompanied our 7 yr old daughter to her church retreat (she is getting ready to celebrate her first reconciliation in a week). Afterwards, we stopped in the parish gift shop where I found a prayer card...this prayer card...

A Wife's daily prayer:  As a wife, I beseech thee, Oh Triune God, make me cheerful, trustful, unselfish, thrifty, and an affectionate companion. If I am blessed with Motherhood, I ask the additional grace of patience and good example. May our family be modeled upon the Holy Family. Amen.

On the back, these were listed...

TEN RULES FOR A HAPPY AND SUCCESSFUL WIFE:

1. Avoid arguments. Your husband has his share from other sources.
2. Don't nag.
3. Don't drink or eat to excess.
4. If you offend your husband, always ask forgiveness before you retire.
5. Compliment your husband liberally. It makes him a better husband.
6. Budget wisely together. Live within your income.
7. Be sociable and go out with your husband.
8. Dress neatly & attractively for your husband, & keep your home clean and cheerful.
9. Keep your household troubles to yourself.
10. Pray together and stay together.

In our homeschool this week…We continued our theme unit of Egypt and watched "The Prince of Egypt" as our family movie. It made me think...

Why do we as Christians expect an easy path? When I think about how people were treated for their faith in the time of Moses...seems like what God requires of us today, of me, is quite...do-able.

This also came up in my Roman History class. We were required to view and discuss Quo Vadis. This film (we watched the 1951 version), and based on the novel, discusses Marcus Vinicius' journey to Christianity. It discusses the Roman's distrust and persecution of Christians, the violent ends that came to some of the apostles...

I find this humbling.

The years after the boys were born, I was so angry by what I felt then was the "hand" I had been dealt. And watched as even certain "family" members gleefully rejoiced that fate had handed my husband and I children with special needs. I felt punished by God. I realized two things since then:

one: God is not in the punishing business. and
two: I have no idea what real punishment; what real persecution is.

I have a path that is different than others. But my path is still 1000 times easier, more so, than so many...I am reminded again to be thankful. to be grateful. and through accompanying my daughter today as she continues her journey towards her first confession, I am reminded of God's grace and goodness he offers us through his mercy and through his forgiveness.

Helpful homeschooling tips or advice to share…even if your homeschool is secular...prayer helps...alot.

What’s working/not working for us… what's working: The more I give to God, the better it gets. what's not working: my grad classes this semester...it's the second week and the workload is already terrifying. I will just keep on keepin' on and see how it goes.

Things I’m working on… Keeping in the forefront my marriage and my love story that I started with my husband 13 years ago.

I’m reading...books for history class...and Ephesians...and Exodus.

I’m grateful for…my marriage and family.

I’m praying for… my friends
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photo credit: here

Linking up with The Homeschool Mother's Journal at The Homeschool Chick. and also linked to:
 

A wise Woman Builds her Home.



Blessings,



Tuesday, January 24, 2012

10 Things your Childs Speech Therapist wants you to know...

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This list is not all inclusive, but your relationship with your Child's SLP, along with your child's therapy progress, will improve with the knowledge of these ten things....

10 things your Child's Speech Path wants you to know (in no particular order).

She (while I know Speech Path's can also be male, we are using the pronoun "She" for today)... She wants you to know that...

1. 50 minutes a week with her will not fix whatever is wrong with your child's speech and language. You have to help.

2. She is not a babysitter. If your child is receiving home based services. You need to be there, the entire session...if not in the room then at least in the house. Don't ask to run to the store.

3. Being habitually late (or habitually not having your child ready if it is a home based session) cheats your child. She can't extend the session just because you weren't there or weren't ready.  If you are habitually late, even only 5-10 minutes, you are cheating your child HOURS of therapy time over the course of the year that one: you paid for and two: you can't get back.

4. It may look like she is playing, but it has a purpose. Everything she does has a purpose and an end goal in mind. For example, What may look like just playing bubbles to you is actually bubbles with specific cues for good lip rounding so that your child can learn to make the /w/ sound.

5. She doesn't mind a quick chat at the beginning of the session, but time spent chatting with you, is essentially time taken off your child's therapy session.

6. You need to cancel if your child is sick. If your child is sick and you dont want to cancel because you don't want your child to miss a session, think about it this way: you cancel and one child misses therapy due to illness. Don't cancel and get her sick and up to 30 children miss therapy due to an illness (hers).

7. She likes it when you communicate with her.  From everything about what toys motivate your child best, to  what is your expectations for the outcome of this therapy. If she is working towards functional communication but your goal is verbal communication, these are very different things. And ask questions...this shows us you are interested in your child's therapy.

8. She does alot of things, including therapy planning, prep and paperwork on her own time.

9. She got into this profession because she is a giver. Speech pathology, like nursing and teaching, is a giving profession.

10. We become attached to you too. When we see a child every week, whether it is 6 months or 6 years, we become emotionally vested in your child's progress and we take their therapy personally.

Now, your turn! As a parent, are there things you wish your therapist (PT, OT, or SLP) knew? Leave them in the comments!

Blessings,


Sunday, January 22, 2012

The homeschool themed ROSETTA STONE giveaway!

Pin It I have enjoyed this month of giveaways with you, all to celebrate my three years of blogging!


I have saved the best for last!


You do not have to be a homeschooler to enter or win, but if you ARE a homeschooler, you are going to love this.







I am giving away: Rosetta Stone French, Level 1


Rosetta Stone is the number one homeschool foreign language program and is how my own French language journey to fluency (and I am still on that journey) started. I found Rosetta Stone wonderful, but challenging and too hard for my 7 year old daughter and I wanted a way to make it easier for homeschool moms using it to teach French in their homeschool and that is how I came up with the idea for ...


Katie's French language cafe is my new blog where you can find French language lessons, free printables, culture lessons, history lessons, and even cuisine! It is my new "baby" and you are going to love it. I have taken my expertise in speech/language, (specifically language aquisition) and my own previous trials as a foreign language learner and developed my own method for second language aquisition~~ The M-E-R-C-I method! (You can read more about that here.) Developed to be used on its own or as a supplement to Rosetta Stone French, I hope you will find it a welcome addition to your home or homeschool!

So here is how to enter!

This is a great prize, so there are two mandatory entries!

1. Like Katie's Language Cafe on facebook. (1 entry)--mandatory entry

2. Follow Katie's Language Cafe via GFC, Networked Blogs, RSS or subscribe by email .
(1 entry)--mandatory entry

You may do any of the following that you like for extra entries. They are not mandatory but will increase your chances!

1. Leave a comment telling me why you want to win/learn French. (1 entry)

2. Share Katie's Language Cafe by sharing any giveaway status you see on the Katie's Language Cafe facebook page on your own page. (3 entries)

3. Place the Katie's language cafe button on your blog's sidebar and (honor system) leave it for one month. (5 entries)

4. SHARE Katie's Language cafe with your own blog followers by writing a short post about the blog and mention/link back to this giveaway. (10 entries).

 I will also be posting this giveaway on the Katie's Language Cafe blog and entries from both will be combined. So you can leave your comments about your entries on either one (not both) and they will be counted. Good luck and I look forward to you all joining me on my French journey over at Katie's Language Cafe!

**This post is linked up to Whatever you want Wednesdays at Free Pretty Things for you.

**The giveaway will end next Saturday, Jan. 28th at 11:59pm. A winner will be chosen via random.org from all entries and announced on Sunday Jan. 29th. You must be a US resident to win the prize.  This giveaway is not affiliated with facebook or Rosetta Stone and neither facebook nor Rosetta Stone are liable for prizes. Brighton Park, Katies Language Cafe or any persons associated with this blog, shall not be held liable for any damages incurred through the use of these prizes. Thank you. Previous blogoversary winners are not eligible.





The winner is...

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I LOVE being able to share my favorite things with people, and this giveaway had so many of my favorite things in it!  In total, we had 81 entries for this giveaway between the blog entries and those who earned entries by sharing the giveaway post on facebook! All were listed out on a piece of paper (old school)~~written out by hand by me. I do this so you can know how the winner came to be. There is no doubt that it was random; that it was fair...(I hate it when I see a giveaway winner announced and you just know that that winner was picked in some kind of "self promotion plan" by the hosting blog...blech...)

Entries were numbered, 1-81. Random.org was then used to generate a number to be matched to the entry number. So without further ado, the winner was: 78!




Congratulations Sara at Your Thriving Family!  You have won the CD soundtrack to Pride and Prejudice, the Jane Austen Notecards, the year subscription to English Home Magazine (you are going to LOVE that!) and the gorgeous handmade Victorian cuff lovingly made and generously donated by Aprile at The Steady Hand Crochet shop!   Please email me at homeschoolfam@gmail.com with your full name and address so I know where to send your English inspired prize package. 

Thank you everyone who entered! I will be posting the last giveaway of my "blogoversary month of giveaways" later today and it is for all you homeschoolers and you are going to want the prize, I promise!


Until then,

Friday, January 20, 2012

Seriously....this was my week...

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photo credit: Brighton Park/ Audrey & Bailey BFFs

In my life this week… New semester of graduate school started. One, ok...the morning I woke up and said "I want to go back to graduate school again"--what kind of crack was I smoking? and two...there is no two. 
In our homeschool this week… continuing our theme unit study on Ancient Egypt.  We didn't have school on Thursday this week because our one son with special needs, Sean, had surgery on his foot again. This time went much smoother with much less comedy that the last time.
Helpful homeschooling tips or advice to share… never ever ever ever ever ever EVER forget....they are only little once.
Places we’re going and people we’re seeing... Audrey, our second grader, had a BLAST last weekend at Pirate Science Camp at our local Science Center. It was an all day event. They saw the special pirate exhibitions and did science experiments all day long that were pirate themed (sink v. float, make a homemade compass, star chart, etc). What a wonderful resource!
My favorite thing this week was…my new baby blog, Katie's French Language Cafe,  went live this week. It is for anyone who wants to learn French but homeschoolers will find it exceptionally useful with language lessons, culture, history, and free printables that give carryover activities using my new M-E-R-C-I method for language acquisition.

***And I'm very happy that my last giveaway in our January blogoversary that starts Sunday night is themed for homeschoolers! If you ever wanted to win a Rosetta Stone set for your homeschool, then come back and enter on Sunday night for your chance...the French Level 1 Rosetta Stone will be the prize!

What’s working/not working for us… I backed into our mailbox (yeah, I don't know how that happened either)...in my husband's car...his "baby"...his (shakes head) Mercedes. Even this morning, three days later the coffee conversation was HIM: (with a kind but incredulous tone) "how did you even manage that? ME: I. dont. know. So, that was not not really working for us this week. I'm sorry Mr. Darcy. kiss. kiss. hug. hug.
Questions/thoughts I have…Did anyone else have their first two final paper topics for their "Ancient Roman Culture As Portrayed in Film" class rejected before finally getting one approved?  geez...who would have thought picking an appropriate film would have been so challenging. Seriously, my brain hurts.  



Things I’m working on…  finally trying to wrap up all "almost done" projects around here. like my Christm Happy 2012 cards.
I’m reading… The online bible study on Ephesians being put on by the blog  Women Living Well. It's not to late to get in on it and the studyguide is a free download on her Good Morning Girls site!





I’m cooking… I finally (there is that word again!) got all the recipes on this site indexed on one page for your convenience...with picture thumbnails. Hooray! Click here to see the yummy goodness.
I’m grateful for… a 7 yr old daughter who told me in her most sincere voice "Mom, when you are old or when you die you don't have to worry cause I will take care of the boys for you".  I an NOT a cryer. But that one made me get really misty. really immediately. Oh. my. heart.
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           come visit me Katie's French language cafe!

**This post is linked up at The Homeschool Mother's Journal at The Homeschool Chick and also linked up at The Weekly Wrap Up over at Weird, Unsocialized Homescholers :-)

Wednesday, January 18, 2012

Shrimp Scampi

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Photo Credit: Brighton Park

Mr. Darcy and I both L*O*V*E to cook and we love to cook all kind of foods: French, Southwest, Greek, Italian, Indian, you name it. Our cookbook collection is like a United Nations of Culinary Texts. My favorite dishes are those that taste divine but took very little fuss to make; coincidentally (or not) they are often one-pot dishes. Shrimp scampi is one of those dishes.

Shrimp scampi is an easy dish to make. The trick is to not overcook the shrimp and to get the combination of butter, wine, garlic and parsley to your particular taste. Here is my recipe, but I recommend playing with it, having some fun, and deciding your favorite way to prepare this tasty dish.  I'm really not sure there even is a wrong way to put these ingredients together!  We serve ours with a green side salad and plain butter noodles. It is also divine over rice.

Katie's Shrimp Scampi
Prep time: under 10 minutes  Cook time: under 4 minutes

Ingredients:

  • 1 1/2  pounds large shrimp (about 16 to 24) (for me, the bigger the better, Fresh or Fresh-frozen, tail on)
  • 1/2  cup butter
  • 4 tablespoons  garlic--minced
  • 1/4 cup dry white wine (optional--if I have it on hand I put it in; if I don't I don't)
  • 1 1/2  tablespoons fresh lemon lemon juice (don't get technical, you can just give your half lemon one good squeeze over the dish.  TIP: remove seeds of lemon half before doing this and you won't end up with any surprise seeds in your scampi))
  • 4-6 tablespoons chopped fresh parsley (I like a lot of parsley)
  • salt and pepper, to taste
  • **I know many people who like scallions (green onions) in their scampi. If this is you, you add 3 tablespoons, thinly sliced.

Preparation:

  • Rinse shrimp and set aside.
  • Melt butter in large skillet over medium heat
  • Add garlic and cook about a minute. You want it golden, not brown.
  • Add shrimp, (green onions if you are using them), wine (if you are using wine) and toss lightly in the melted butter.
  • Add lemon by giving 1/2 a lemon a good squeeze over the dish (you want about 1 1/2 tablespoons)
  •  cook until shrimp are pink and firm, 1 to 2 minutes on each side. Do not overcook.
  •   Add chopped parsley and stir.
  •  Add pepper (we use a pepper mill and I give the whole dish a LIGHT dusting). 
  • Add salt to taste
**running water over frozen shrimp will thaw it very quickly, making a bag of shrimp a great staple to keep in your freezer. I buy it when it is on sale and then I have it on hand later.
We serve this with a green side salad and with either rice or plain butter noodles. Enjoy!

This post is linked up to Farmgirl Fridays at Deborah Jean's Dandelion House.  the Weekend Whatever at Your Thriving Family, Whatever you want Wednesdays at Free Pretty Things for you. and Show me what you got at Not Just a Housewife.

Sunday, January 15, 2012

The ENGLISH themed Giveaway starts today...

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So here we are with the third weekly giveaway of our 4 weeks of giveaways here at Brighton Park to celebrate my 3 years of blogging. This week's giveaway is so dear to my heart. As you know I am a Jane Austen fan who married my own Englishman, my Mr. Darcy, in a little church in Scotland back in 1999. I love England and we visit there frequently. Our last visit was this past April, when we took our eldest daughter to experience the Royal wedding activities. Here she is with just two of the fascinating people we met on wedding day at Buckingham Palace. Aren't their outfits great?


The trip also coincided with my own Mr. Darcy's 40th birthday. We celebrated by dressing up and taking him to dinner the night of his "big day".  Here I am with Audrey, sporting our best hat and fascinator...


Of course one of the highlights of the trip for me was getting to visit Jane Austen's house in Chawton.  I started my own Jane Austen Book Club right after coming home from this trip. (To learn how to start your own Jane Austen Book Club, click here).


Pride and Prejudice was written at this table (did you just get goosebumps? I did!)



If you like the music that plays on my blog, it is from the Pride and Prejudice soundtrack. And it is prize #1 of this giveaway:


and while you are listening to this gorgeous CD, having a cup of tea, it is the perfect time to write out some notes, by hand, in true Jane Austen style, while using gift #2, these Jane Austen note cards.


and if you love looking at the pictures I post here time to time of England, then you will be crazy over the moon for prize #3:

a year gift subscription to my very favorite magazine, English Home.


The magazines in the picture  of the prize pack (below) are the ones I have received this past year with my own subscription; you will receive your own new ones as the gift subscription of English Home will come directly to your door (per the magazine, please allow 6-8 weeks for your subscription to start). This is my favorite magazine and you will love the articles and the photos, I promise!


Our new sponsor here at Brighton Park, The steady Hand Crochet house has some beautiful things in her shop that make me think of England's chilly weather and the beautiful crochet work of her bracelets makes me think of that old world regency charm. She has donated this gorgeous handmade Victorian cuff bracelet to this giveaway:


Aprile, the amazing lady behind "The Steady Hand" is offering all Brighton Park readers free shipping off anything purchased in her Etsy store. Simply type in the code FREESHIP upon checkout (must live in the USA to receive free shipping discount).  So here are all the goodies together:



This giveaway will take place this week from now until 11:59 on Saturday the 21st, both on the blog and the Brighton Park Facebook page  with entries from both locations being combined and the winner picked via random.org (and announced) on Sunday the 22nd.



Here's how to enter! each thing is worth an entry/entries...
  1. Leave a comment telling me who is your favorite author. (1)
  2. follow the Brighton Park Blog (1).
  3. like the Brighton Park facebook page. (1)
  4. Visit the Steady Hand Etsy shop and come back here and tell me one thing that you liked! (3 entries!)
  5. Leave a comment telling me you are now following The Steady Hand Blog via RSS, email or Networked blogs. (2)
  6. Like the steady hand on facebook and leave a comment telling me you did (1)
  7. SHARE any giveaway post you see on the Brighton Park facebook page this week  or on your own page. (worth 3 entries each!) If you use the share link under the status post on facebook, I will know to give you 3 entries.
I track the entries each day pretty meticulously and then from the total at the end of the week, random.org will pick a winner, just like they did in the week one giveaway here and the week two giveaway, here. (You don't have to wonder how the winner was chosen; I share with you every step of the way how it was!)

I am so thankful for everyone who has been commenting, liking comments, & emailing. We are growing such a lovely community here . and Next week, our last giveaway of our blogoversary month will start.... my extra special HOMESCHOOLERS themed giveaway!

I can't wait to find out whose  home will be blessed with this lovely English/Jane Austen themed collection! I wouldn't be surprised if a box of one of my favorite teas also ended up in the prize package :-)




**Giveaway ends 1/21/12 11:59 pm, winner will be chosen using random.org, with a winner being announced on Sunday Jan 22nd! Winner MUST live in the 50 United States. Winner will receive giveaway prize within 2 weeks of giveaway ending. This giveaway is not affiliated with facebook and facebook is not liable for prizes. Brighton Park, katies Language Cafe or any persons associated with this blog, shall not be held liable for any damages incurred through the use of these prizes. Thank you.

and the winner of the HOMEMAKERS themed giveaway is...

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This giveaway was so fun for me. I got inspired in the kitchen by reading all your great comments about your favorite things to cook for your families. I love cooking and as homemakers what we cook for our families, whether simple or complex and no matter our kitchen skills, is how we can show our families and our friends we LOVE them. Jesus broke bread with his disciples; he didn't send them a quick text! So I hope you realize that those meals you put out everyday are important in so many ways, and it just another royal endeavor we homemakers and mothers perform!


In total, we had 201 entries for this giveaway between the blog entries and those who earned entries by sharing the giveaway post on facebook! All were listed out on a piece of paper (old school~~and believe me, writing out those took awhile :-) I had 4 pages that looked like this :-) 


Entries were numbered, 1-201. Random.org was then used to generate a number to be matched to the entry number. So without further ado, the winner was: 126



Congratulations Annette Adams Farthing. You have won the homemaker themed giveaway that includes the New Beekman 1801 Heirloom cookbook, the meal planning and dinner planning knock knock pads from Anthropologie, the new 2012 calendar from Fresh Eggs Daily and the cutest apron ever, also from Anthropologie!   Please email me at homeschoolfam@gmail.com with your full name and address so I know where to send your kitchen goodies. 

Thank you everyone who entered! I will be posting the third  giveaway of my blogoversary later today and it is themed for you English countryside loving Jane Austen fans and you are going to love it!

Until then,

Tuesday, January 10, 2012

The Speech/Language Series #1: Traits of a good SLP

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I have been a Speech Language Pathologist for 17 years.  I am also the parent of two children with special needs who receive weekly speech pathology services from another SLP. In my career so far,  I have had the privilege to work beside and learn from some amazing SLP's, both women and men. I have also had to work with SLP's who were, in my opinion, quite terrible. So how do you tell a good SLP from a bad SLP? It is not based on age (there are good SLPs who are young/old and bad SLP's who are young/old) and it is not based solely on experience either. Here's a few things that I look for when I receive/find/am looking for an SLP for my own two sons:

A good SLP usually exhibits most of these traits:
  1. Shows up on time so they can start the session on time.
  2. Is prepared.
  3. Uses various motivators for the session. They see it as their job to engage my child in the activities. You won't hear them saying "(your child) just wouldn't do anything today" but you might hear them say "I need to work on finding better motivators for your child". They feel the responsibility of how engaged your child was in the session falls on them, not your child. 
  4. Is professional and drama free.
  5.  Enjoys children and working with your child. Finds positive things about your child to share with you that you can both build on; even after a "hard" session.You would think that one would be obvious, but I once had a new SLP for the boys tell me the reasons she planned to never have children of her own, and all the reasons she didn't like kids. We didn't have her back...
  6. Is flexible and remembers she/he is there to provide you a service.
  7. Stays up to date on current therapy techniques by seeking out in-person learning opportunities.
  8. Knows what she doesn't know. There have been  times when I have had a new client and I knew with extra training I would be able to stay ahead of my client and be able to provide a treatment with efficacy (good result), even though I did not have alot of experience with their diagnosis at the time of our first session. There were other times I was asked to see a client and after the first session with the parents I KNEW I was not the best therapist for that job.  Speech pathology is a VAST field and it is just not possible to be truly versed in all the different therapies for all the different diagnoses. Even though there is a shortage of SLPs, If a new-to-you SLP tells you "I don't know enough about (diagnosis) to properly treat your child, they just did you a favor... ( and in my humble opinion, the areas of trachs, feeding, stuttering, cochlear implant, hearing loss, and augmentative communication all come to mind as areas when the therapist MUST have either good experience or excellent training (and still have a supervisor available to them if no experience) to adequately and safely provide therapy.
  9. will provide you with home program activities that you can do with your child until the next therapy session,because she knows that one hour of therapy once a week is not going to "fix" anything without parents doing the heavy lifting the other 6 days of the week. She lets you know at the beginning, the important role you play on your child's therapy team.
  10. Explains the "what" but also the "why" of what she is doing. For example: "we worked on blowing bubbles today so that (your child) can improve his lip rounding skills. We are doing this because lip rounding skills are necessary to make his /w/ sound correctly". There is a LOGICAL chain from the therapy activities she is doing to the end result wanting to be achieved.
  11. loves her job
A bad SLP...
  1. Starts sessions late or ends them early....habitually. Or cancels often. Progress cannot happen in therapy unless attendance to therapy is consistent.
  2. sees the session as just her job, not as her job to provide a service to you,and definitely not as a calling.
  3. lacks enthusiasm. Is there animation to her voice? is she actively trying to engage your child?
  4. does not seek out opportunities to improve her knowledge base or therapy techniques. I see this more often in older SLPS than younger. Some have done the same techniques for 20 years and call it experience.  Whose to say that is the best technique for your child? If all the cont. ed is done online instead of seeking out opportunities to network and improve skills via in person trainings, that can (but not always) serve as a red flag.
  5. Cannot properly tell you the what or why of the activities she is doing in therapy (see #9 in the good SLP list above). I fired an SLP last year because every time I asked her what she was doing with the boys she said "play therapy". When I dug deeper for specifics, i.e what end results was she working on achieving with these play activities, she couldn't provide an answer because she simply didn't have a knowledge base. As it turns out, she was still working on her Masters Degree , i.e. still in school, but had been hired by the agency anyway due to the severe SLP shortage we have here. I don't mind a young SLP, I find they often make up in enthusiasm what they lack in experience; this therapist had neither.
  6. Does the same thing. every single session. without variation.  "automatic pilot". Therapy is a dynamic process, not a static one.
  7. Is unable to see a child's negative behaviours as challenges within a diagnosis  that she must find the way to overcome/resolve. It is the SLP's job to work through your child's behaviours to find what works for your child. That is what they are trained to do. They may need to have you be more involved in the session if behaviours are exceedingly difficult but telling you "little Johnny did "x" so we got nothing accomplished" is just so not okay.
  8. Offers no home program or ideas for you. She leaves and speech/lang. stops until the therapy session the following week.
  9. Doesn't know what she doesn't know because she/he is too busy thinking they know everything. As I write this one, two different therapists I worked with in my career come to mind. One was young and one was old. The young one knew EVERYTHING. She would volunteer for to perform evaluations and then when it was obvious she had no idea how to do them, I would get called off of another floor of the hospital to take over the evaluation, mid way through. This made everyone look bad. The older one would tell you black was white in order to not have to agree with a therapy technique you were suggesting. A good therapist wants what is best for the patient, and doesn't let their pride stand in the way of the patient getting it.
  10. May actually be a good SLP but is just suffering burn-out, or may be going through a temporary personal situation that is keeping them from being their best.
A few other points to ponder...

RE: Young SLP's. Some of the best SLP's my sons have ever had were rookies. Likewise, Some of the worst SLP's I've ever worked with were rookies. Look for a solid knowledge base (like a general practitioner...they may not have a specialization yet but still a good knowledge base) who is enthusiastic and willing to learn more about your particular child's diagnosis, speech device, etc. Are they willing to do continuing education or trainings? Do they have in enthusiasm (one "E") what they lack in the other "E" (experience)? If so, they are probably a "keeper". If they are lacking both the E's, best to keep looking for one that will be a better fit for your family.

RE: Older SLPs. Again, look for an SLP who is versed in the type of speech/language therapy your child needs, a willingness to learn (or at least not be afraid of) new technology, and an energy level that matches your child. Are they doing their cont. ed online or going out and learning about the latest treatments and techniques? You want to try and avoid an SLP who has been doing something the same way, wrong even, for 20 years and calling it experience.

Also, if there is a problem, the problem may be the time of day and not your therapist.  I find that therapy with my boys works best when it is a good time of day for them and the SLP. The boys work best with therapists in the mornings usually, as they are less tired and anxious to "do their good work".  My boys are also challenging therapy patients due to their diagnosis and behaviours, so I find that morning therapies, with an SLP who is not already tired from a day of seeing clients works best in that regard as well. When I was working full-time, I always tried to schedule my harder therapies at the beginning of the week when I was more fresh from a weekend of rest; scheduling my easier therapy clients towards the end of the week when I was apt to be more tired.

Lastly:

There is an extreme shortage of SLP's in some areas. You will have to decide, especially if you have been on a waiting list for a long time, if you think you really need a different SLP for your family, as that will probably mean being put back on the waiting list.  When I start a new therapist with my boys, I always tell them, as the parent, "The boys have had lots of therapists over the years. I  have found it works best to have you work with them for a month and then let us reconvene.  Then you can tell me if you think you are a good fit for them and if our family is a good fit for you and vice versa". I find this allows both the parents and the therapists (OT, PT, and SLP) a gracious "out" if either party feels the boys therapy needs are not a good fit for their skill set (or patience set).

Most of the SLPs you are going to encounter love their job. Most of them are very good (you have to complete a Master's degree to be an SLP, unlike OT's and PT's which only require Bachelor's degrees) and most of them became pediatric SLP's in the first place because they love kids and want to serve families in a "giving' profession.  I hope this post has given you some insight to some of the things to look for when your child is participating in speech therapy. I look forward to your comments. I also need to disclose that this post was written for information purposes only and does not, in any way, constitute the giving or recieving of medical advice.



Sunday, January 8, 2012

Blogoversary giveaway #2 for Homemakers!

Pin It I am so excited about this week's giveaway prize to celebrate my three years of blogging. (Seriously was just a bit tempted to keep it!) Check out these amazing kitchen goodies. Your kitchen needs these. You need these :-)


That's maybe the cutest apron from Anthropologie.....ever...and it could be yours.


With the cutest fabric flower applique and a pocket perfect for putting a freshly laid egg in.....it is just so charming!
And....The new Beekman 1802 Heirloom Cookbook!


and two of my favorite kitchen accessories from Anthropologie: the meal planning and the grocery list large "knock knock" notepads. They are magnetic on the back. Stick them to the fridge and say hello to organization and meal planning!

And...so your kitchen can be wearing something pretty too, this gorgeous 2012 egg calendar from Fresh Eggs Daily!


This giveaway will take place this week  from now until 11:59 on Saturday the 14th, both on the blog and the Brighton Park Facebook page with entries from both locations being combined and the winner picked via random.org  (and announced) on Sunday the 15th.  

Here's how to enter! each thing is worth an entry/entries...

  1. Leave a comment telling me one thing you love to cook for your family. (1)
  2. Leave a comment telling me you Follow this blog, Brighton Park, via GFC or Networked blogs. (1)
  3. Follow me on twitter @kateinbrighton and leave a comment letting me know your twitter ID so I can follow you back (1)
  4. like Brighton Park on facebook (2)
  5. SHARE any giveaway post you see on the Brighton Park facebook page this week on your own page. (worth 3 entries each!) If you use the share link under the status post on facebook, I will know to give you 3 entries.
  6. Go visit the Fresh Eggs Daily Blog and follow it. Come back here and tell me you did (worth 3 entries).
I track the entries each day pretty meticulously and then from the total at the end of the week, random.org will pick a winner, just like they did in the week one giveaway here.

I am so thankful for everyone who has been commenting, liking comments, & emailing. We are growing such a lovely community here of homeschoolers, homemakers and homesteaders...and Jane Austen fans, your themed giveaway is next week ;-).

I can't wait to find out whose kitchen will be blessed with this lovely box of goodies.


**Giveaway ends 1/14/12 11:59 pm, winner will be chosen using random.org, with a winner being announced on Sunday Jan 15th! Winner MUST live in the 50 United States. Winner will receive giveaway prize within 2 weeks of giveaway ending.  This giveaway is not affiliated with facebook and facebook is not liable for prizes. Brighton Park, or any persons associated with this blog, shall not be held liable for any damages incurred through the use of these prizes. Thank you.







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